Lets get the party started .......

Sara Lovett

We posted a blog a few days ago outlining the steps necessary for people to go from Unconditional Love to Real Love. In this blog I want to talk about the second step - Self Love.

Most people understand the concept of Self Love but the question that always arises is - how? When we experience ourselves as one whole unit, seeing through one lens we cannot experience Self Love. That is because Self Love is a process, not a perspective. Self Love is not a concept, religious belief or idea that from within a bubble of perspective we can be loving towards self. That is where we get it wrong. It is deeply sad to watch close friends, family and lovers stay within their bubbles and from within there, create beliefs, ideas and rules for themselves that they then call Self Love. This is precisely what blocks everyone from creating the lives that they want.

The process of Self Love goes like this (follow the steps):

1. You have to first disallow unconditional love. It is only a CONCEPT that people hold onto because they live in multiple dimensions, not living in the physical reality. If you think this takes time you are in the dimensions. Physical reality is instant and immediate.

2. Go to the one who terrifies you - the friend you cherish and/or the man/woman you want to join; take your mess with you; show them all of it; and DEMAND to see theirs

3. Together, face your loneliness and that you feel lonely because you deserted who you really are. This is PRECISELY what keeps you dimensional so that progression can never happen

***** now here is the leap .... the HOW does not matter in the physical - you grasp this is a massive internal shift and the how will be presented with the appropriate action.

4. Now the party really gets rocking: together get into what you have been avoiding - ALL of it! Don't just talk about it - together, experience the depths of it. This is a deeply intimate experience.

5. As the layers of what is NOT REAL, come away, the GAP that you have been avoiding becomes apparent. Gradually you will become 100% aligned to your physical reality without the need to fill the roles of others, to cover up your fear of them not joining you.

6. Experience the physical ache in your heart of what has already been decided. It aches because you want it more than anything else. The ache will direct you towards the final layers of opposition you have to actually join others in your physical reality.

7. Release your opposition to being saved and saving another. You will be delivered directly into a real relationship - your vision, ego and everything in your life that you have created that is false will fall away.

Self love is the process that will move you from living across multiple dimensions and fantasy - to real physical unification. Only here will you open up to real love and friendship. Only THEN can you utilise the powerful creative force of REAL LOVE and only then are you able to self direct and create the life that you really want.